Every branch in me that does not bear fruit he takes away, and every branch

that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit.(John 15:2)

 After several weeks of unanswered messages to my friend (I’ll call her Carol), I finally decided to call her husband but got no response. The unexpected silence was killing me…thoughts started racing through my head and I started thinking something bad has happened to my friend. I couldn’t wrap my head around what was said on our last conversation. “Did I say or do something to offend her?” I messaged her one last time and asked for just one word from her to say that she was OK. Nothing.

I was at my lowest point in life when I met Carol and we made an instant connection. She became my prayer buddy, my inspiration, and my supporter. She always knew what I was going through before we even talked. But nothing had prepared me for what happened next. Carol finally messaged me and I stood in disbelief at her message that said “I need time”. I thought to myself, friends make time for friends, right? Carol had simply decided to cut me out of her life.

I value friendship and would never intentionally do anything to upset anyone. To lose that overnight feels like having a limb cut off. I tried contacting her one last time to try and save our friendship but she rejected all my attempts, even my apology. I prayed and asked God to give me clarity in this situation. I didn’t know what else to do because Iwas shocked by how much it hurt to lose that connection. I soon realized our friendship was definitely over.

You see, I was looking over my shoulder for the devil, but I was wounded by friendly fire. I became focused on my pain rather than abiding in God. It was through my suffering that God was pruning me, and it was through my trials that God was setting me apart for a lifestyle of bearing good fruit (John 15:2). God is a Good God and He will prune us differently. I pray that you will trust that this is all for our good and for His glory!

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  • Patricia Geffen

    I too went through the same situation. It was a shock because we had been very close friends. I did not even get a I need time. Just nothing.

  • Coralee

    I lost a close friend, shortly after my mother passed. A very critical time for me. My friend told me I wasn’t myself and I wasn’t there for her when she needed me. It has taken me almost a year and a half to grasp this and grieve a friendship. Your story confirms to me, that it wasn’t just me. It happens to others and we must trust God. Thank you for sharing.

  • Diane Johnson Qubty

    So sorry. God will not leave you void after the ‘pruning’. He will make something good and give you blessing. Praying for you 🙏🏻🦋

  • Dee

    Thank you so much for sharing this. This gives me clarity in what I have experienced recently with a friend (same situation as yours) with the exception I didn’t get a ‘I need time’ response. Your post has brought clarity and closure for me and I will continue praying for this friend as God continues developing me during this pruning season. I am so happy that He had me look at your post.

    God bless you!!!